I never thought I would find myself here, in this situation. It wasn't supposed to happen to me. Not me. This happens to others - lazy unworthy others who are to blame for their own predicament. Yet here is where I find myself. Is this my fault? I keep wondering, how did I get here? Where did I make the wrong turn?
Then the questions turn again: What if it isn't only a result of my choices? What if my choices met bad luck, and other people's choices? What if stuff just happens?
Finally: Really does it matter how I got here? Does it matter if it is my fault or not or somewhere in between? Did I "attract" this? (what does that even mean?) Is this someone's will for me? If so, who and who would be so cruel? (God, and if so what kind of God can be called love and yet act with such cruelty) And again does it matter?
Really all that matters is that here I am. There is no choice but to move forward (or maybe not but what would not moving forward even be?). The only option is to keep going, keep making choices, do the best I can. Then maybe one day I can tell this story, in its fullness. Maybe it will help someone show more compassion or someone know they are not alone. For now I can only speak in vague questions, vague references. Later it will be time to tell the story but right now I can't sort it all out. This chapter is not yet ended and until I know what happens I can't sort out all its meanings and nuances.
In the meantime, I pray, I write, I keep reaching out. I keep seeking, looking for options, making choices looking for a way through. For there is no over, no out, there is only through. I am not sure what I will find on the other side, I have some ideas but I don't know. I know I am more compassionate. I know that this opened my eyes, my mind and my heart. I know things now that I did not know before. I have an empathy for people who struggle in ways I did not before.
Most of the time I have hope, I know I will make it through. I know I am not alone. Yet there are other times I am not as sure and all I can do is pray and ride it through reminding myself it will get better, this will pass, nothing stays the same. I remind myself of the blessings, that this isn't all that is true for me even it feels overwhelming and all encompassing. The only thing I know for sure is that this will change for change is inevitable, everything changes. May it change for the better, sooner rather than later.
No, I never imagined myself here and the question is what will I do now that I am. I can't move forward if I keep looking back wondering how I got here. I have no ability to go back and change the past, there is only moving forward and even with that there is no guarantee, no assurance of success. My choices are to give up or to keep moving forward and for now I choose to move forward.
Where have you found yourself that you never imagined; that you were not supposed to be?
What gets you through? Will you choose to keep moving forward or is there a time to surrender,
a time to just let go? How will you know?